The sorcery of being indifferent to Mondays.

And just like that, it’s frickin’ Monday again. The Boomtown Rats didn’t like Monday. The Bangles found it to be a ‘Manic’ day. And most of us don’t want it to happen, ever. And yet. Every 7 days. It reappears.

So why do we hate it? Let’s check with the science people.

We socialise more often at weekends. This disturbs our energy levels.

We have ‘lie-ins’. That messes up our body clock.

So, you are physically less alert.

When you feel physically less fit, you ‘feel’ worse. Studies have shown people feel less attractive on Monday.

We feel Mondays are the worst day and so it becomes that. So we feel ‘blue’ about it.

A massive Gallup study states 70% hate or is disengaged from their job. And most ‘jobs’ start on Monday at 9am.

So, you are mentally in a lesser state.

No wonder must of us feel shite about this day.

And yet some people say they Love Mondays. Who are those freaks? I have met them and am still unsure if they mean it or just say they do to piss you off. 😉

Me, I am indifferent to Monday. I mean the word Monday. I feel the same about the words Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday and Sunday.

Am I, too, a freak? Well, some of the people I have worked with feel the same. What kind of sorcery is this?

Here are a few things we do differently.

1- We live in the moment and are, as Tim Minchin described, micro-ambitious. We understand that engaging fully in each moment gives us plenty of rewards.

2- We slowly yet steadily start seeking out the good things we love doing most and do more of this.

3- We attach importance in doing that what we do in the flow. Without distractions, naturally, from within.

4- We accept we are complete human beings and have everything we require already within us.

Let me pause here and give you some personal side effects that came from living this way.

I’m 1 month away from being 10 years GP free (that includes no colds nor flu). Opportunities appear everywhere because I am not fixated on some future goals and life. This led to 4 new ‘business’ partnerships in the last 2 months alone. I have run 120 Full Marathons between the age of 42 and 53 and am not done. And there is more but that is for a next blog or book 😊

Do you want to know more? Check this page for upcoming events, talks, weekends, etc…

Contact me directly by email to ask about working with me.

Just trust yourself. You can do this too. Yes, you.

Imagine becoming indifferent to the word Monday. Doing more of what you love. And still making a Living. Imagine what that would feel like.

You are so worth it.

Patrick xxx

The Anger is gone from me now. How about you?

To understand the finer details of how we function as humans requires a lifetime’s work of research and a deep sense of collective awareness. I have mastered neither so far yet I have gained some serious insights on several aspects of what makes us tick and I’ll continue studying it as I find it thoroughly fascinating.

One thing that I have become aware and conscious of is how anger is of no distinguishable benefit to us at any stage. Not even when we need adrenaline cause we can get that elsewhere, through fear and success to name but two.

I grew up angry. That anger was fed to me by everyone around me. Angry with people who had more than us, angry with perceived injustices, angry with countries for what they did to other countries, angry with the Christian Brothers who beat me for talking in class, angry because I got my growth spurt to late and got bullied, angry for not being picked on the team.

All that anger was actually fed by fear. A fear of incompetence, not fitting in, not being good enough, never amounting to anything much. As a result there was a serious lack of self-esteem and self-belief and I sauntered through school, underachieving spectacularly but passing classes by doing just enough. Underachieving in sport.

And then the escape came, drink and cigarettes. Enough people my age died doing drugs for me not to get into that, there was no immediate sense of self destruction. I failed at Uni, failed at jobs, failed at living a fulfilling life.

Fast forward, I’m 48 now and the anger just left me. I am grateful for that, though the journey has been tough and full of pitfalls. It was a journey of awareness, acceptance and step by step action.

The rewards are huge though. Just by getting rid of anger I have buckets of energy, discovered my passions and live them, have returned to social activism without it sucking energy, got rid of most of my fears and am on the cusp of turning a self-employed coaching company into a business centred on helping people achieve more fulfilling lives; personally and in business.

It reminds me of the famous quote, attributed allegedly to Buddha: 'Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.'

Here’s some really good news. I’m just another human being with the same desires you have to be happy and life fully. So, IF I CAN, YOU CAN.

All you need is a first step. If you don’t know what that step is for you and your life or business is struggling as a result, ask an accredited Life Coach for help. You’ll thank me for it.

What we scream about!

Everything around me is screaming. And the screams get louder every day. Some things and people scream out of lack, some out of want and others out of greed. The funny thing is that they scream in symbols. Their screams are hollow sounds filled with symbols. And we all know the symbols they use, because we all scream them too.

€, $, £, ¥, ﷼ etc….

On a daily basis in our own lives or in our media these symbols represent need, want, desire, possession, greed, emptiness, obsession, deception, murder, war and general discomfort.

My reasoning is that if money was the main purpose of life we would be able to eat it, drink it, build shelters with it and its mere existence in our lives would make us happy. Yet most people tell me it doesn’t. It only allows us to buy the ingredients to do all the above. And the amount of it we need or want varies to where we live and who sets the prices.

Think of this, if I gave you all the money you want to provide you with all the things you need but prohibited you from using any of it, what would its worth be to you? None, I hear you say.

Currently, we all use money to buy the things we need and want. Or do we? Do we really need all the things we buy? Are we happy with the money we make? Does it allow us to buy everything we need? Do we want more all the time? Would we do more if we had more?

On a worldwide note, has money made the world a better place? Is our wealth equally distributed? Are we all living similar lifestyles due to the abundance of money around us? No, I hear you say.

Or has it made our world a scarier, greedier, possession driven place to live in? Yes, I hear you say.

Here’s one to ponder:

Money is useless without purpose for it. Our purpose in life is different for each person. We all have different things we want to achieve and different dreams. Some want a beautiful car. Some want to eradicate poverty. Some want to write books on a beach in Brazil while watching football. Some want a quiet life in a beautiful home. Some want the happy sounds of children around them. And these are just a few examples, I’m sure you have your own.

What we have lost track of is that all those wants have 1 thing in common. They make us feel a certain way. When we achieve what we want there is strong emotions and feelings attached to that. What if we captured those feelings and emotions for ourselves? What if we found out individually what makes us tick? What makes us feel in the flow of things?

All we needed then is to chase those feelings instead of money. If having stuff for the sake of having it would become less popular, money would become less important.

This is my journey, assisting people to help discover their WHY!! I needed a megaphone to shout above the screams so I am writing a book to stand on as if a soapbox to get this message delivered widely. Look out for updates on this space as the Structure has been nailed down and the writing is beginning!

Mean time you can contact me with questions and/or feedback or ideas on 083-3008963 or Patrick@forward2success.com   

 Just because life’s  why is bigger than it’s what!!