The sorcery of being indifferent to Mondays.

And just like that, it’s frickin’ Monday again. The Boomtown Rats didn’t like Monday. The Bangles found it to be a ‘Manic’ day. And most of us don’t want it to happen, ever. And yet. Every 7 days. It reappears.

So why do we hate it? Let’s check with the science people.

We socialise more often at weekends. This disturbs our energy levels.

We have ‘lie-ins’. That messes up our body clock.

So, you are physically less alert.

When you feel physically less fit, you ‘feel’ worse. Studies have shown people feel less attractive on Monday.

We feel Mondays are the worst day and so it becomes that. So we feel ‘blue’ about it.

A massive Gallup study states 70% hate or is disengaged from their job. And most ‘jobs’ start on Monday at 9am.

So, you are mentally in a lesser state.

No wonder must of us feel shite about this day.

And yet some people say they Love Mondays. Who are those freaks? I have met them and am still unsure if they mean it or just say they do to piss you off. 😉

Me, I am indifferent to Monday. I mean the word Monday. I feel the same about the words Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday and Sunday.

Am I, too, a freak? Well, some of the people I have worked with feel the same. What kind of sorcery is this?

Here are a few things we do differently.

1- We live in the moment and are, as Tim Minchin described, micro-ambitious. We understand that engaging fully in each moment gives us plenty of rewards.

2- We slowly yet steadily start seeking out the good things we love doing most and do more of this.

3- We attach importance in doing that what we do in the flow. Without distractions, naturally, from within.

4- We accept we are complete human beings and have everything we require already within us.

Let me pause here and give you some personal side effects that came from living this way.

I’m 1 month away from being 10 years GP free (that includes no colds nor flu). Opportunities appear everywhere because I am not fixated on some future goals and life. This led to 4 new ‘business’ partnerships in the last 2 months alone. I have run 120 Full Marathons between the age of 42 and 53 and am not done. And there is more but that is for a next blog or book 😊

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Just trust yourself. You can do this too. Yes, you.

Imagine becoming indifferent to the word Monday. Doing more of what you love. And still making a Living. Imagine what that would feel like.

You are so worth it.

Patrick xxx

The Anger is gone from me now. How about you?

To understand the finer details of how we function as humans requires a lifetime’s work of research and a deep sense of collective awareness. I have mastered neither so far yet I have gained some serious insights on several aspects of what makes us tick and I’ll continue studying it as I find it thoroughly fascinating.

One thing that I have become aware and conscious of is how anger is of no distinguishable benefit to us at any stage. Not even when we need adrenaline cause we can get that elsewhere, through fear and success to name but two.

I grew up angry. That anger was fed to me by everyone around me. Angry with people who had more than us, angry with perceived injustices, angry with countries for what they did to other countries, angry with the Christian Brothers who beat me for talking in class, angry because I got my growth spurt to late and got bullied, angry for not being picked on the team.

All that anger was actually fed by fear. A fear of incompetence, not fitting in, not being good enough, never amounting to anything much. As a result there was a serious lack of self-esteem and self-belief and I sauntered through school, underachieving spectacularly but passing classes by doing just enough. Underachieving in sport.

And then the escape came, drink and cigarettes. Enough people my age died doing drugs for me not to get into that, there was no immediate sense of self destruction. I failed at Uni, failed at jobs, failed at living a fulfilling life.

Fast forward, I’m 48 now and the anger just left me. I am grateful for that, though the journey has been tough and full of pitfalls. It was a journey of awareness, acceptance and step by step action.

The rewards are huge though. Just by getting rid of anger I have buckets of energy, discovered my passions and live them, have returned to social activism without it sucking energy, got rid of most of my fears and am on the cusp of turning a self-employed coaching company into a business centred on helping people achieve more fulfilling lives; personally and in business.

It reminds me of the famous quote, attributed allegedly to Buddha: 'Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.'

Here’s some really good news. I’m just another human being with the same desires you have to be happy and life fully. So, IF I CAN, YOU CAN.

All you need is a first step. If you don’t know what that step is for you and your life or business is struggling as a result, ask an accredited Life Coach for help. You’ll thank me for it.