The 'DIAY' people You know, and the cost of it for them!

 

You will know the people I'm talking about. I used to be one. It could well be you are one of the people. The DIAY people. I did it in my business; and it was tiring, stressful, and hard to stay motivated. It also meant making sacrifices and doing less of what I really loved. 

Others do it at home, at work, in their club or organisation. DIAY people, Do It All Yourself!

Examples, you ask? Fixing your own lawnmower, cutting your own hair, writing your own CV, doing all the admin for the club you are in, doing the accounts for the local charity free, covering HR and stationery and IT and admin in your business.  Nothing wrong with this until you come under scrutiny. The lawnmower breaks down and costs you extra in parts no longer covered under warranty, your hair now 'looks' like the front lawn, you get no answers to the CV’s you send out, you delete half the membership of the club by accident, the Revenue audits the charity accounts and you get the blame, and your client base falls away cause you spend too much time on your business rather than in it.

Then we cry out for the help of an expert, after the damage is done. 

‘Everyone I meet knows more than me.’ A phrase I heard more than 10 years ago. Let that sink in.

‘Everyone I meet knows more than me.’

Give yourself the time when networking, to listen to everyone intently. Rather than talking about yourself. Listen to what they know more than you. And take note of that expertise.

Then next time you have a job to do at home, in your club or organisation, or in your business just ask yourself who knows more about that than me. And reach out to them.

I have, and the results are twofold. 1- Things get done professionally and in less than half the time it would have taken me. 2- It frees up time for me to do what I love doing most.

Patrick Mercie

Mind Coach

Moving people, organisations, companies from F.L.A.W.S. © to FLOW!!

+353 83-3008963

patrickmercie66@hotmail.com 

What you might do instead of listening to bad or scary news!!

 

When was the last time you carefully listened to all the information that is thrown at you? The last time that you really took in what is being constantly drip-fed to you?

 

13 Hospitals have no free intensive care beds.

Dutch officials confiscate ham sandwiches from UK visitors as a result of Brexit.

Trump supporters planning armed protests ahead of Biden inauguration, FBI warns.

Status Yellow - Rainfall Warning for Mayo and Sligo.

Rugby's European cups temporarily suspended due to Covid-19.

 

Headlines from official news channels this Tuesday. On Twitter this morning some of the trends are:

#motherandbabyhomes #fakenews #CovidVaccine #Brexit #USCapitol

If you were to add feelings to all those pieces of information, what would those feelings be?

Just for a brief moment think what feelings go with these topics?

Now ask yourself if these are feelings you love having in your life?

 

NO? Then what can you do about this?

 

From experience here are a few questions to start you off on a different journey:

 

What would it mean to you to have other feelings in your life?

What feelings would you like in your life?

What impact, would having those feelings in your life, have on you?

What actions can you take today that will give you these feelings?

I invite you to take 1 positive action from the last answer. 1 that is good for you. And try it out! See if it gets you the feeling and if that feeling is worth having.

 

If you struggle to come up with positive actions that is OK too, we have had to endure the above information stream for a long time in our lives. It’s all about small steps to change. It’s about creating a bubble of positivity around yourself and once that is there, we can start thinking of bigger changes.

What can you do now if you have no immediate positive actions?

 

From personal experience and that of my clients here are 2 things that really work and are easy to do.

1- Each evening before you go to bed, write down the 3 best things that happened to you that day. Small things, simple things, big things, achievements, thank you’s. They all count. In my last week, there were best things in my life like a call with a really good friend, a dinner that tasted wonderful, a new contract signed with an existing client, a dog walk, a song I hadn’t heard for ages.

When you have written all 3 down, add a feeling to them and relive that feeling for a minute.

2- While we have to stay home as much as we can, do go Outdoors at least once a day. No phone, no music. Just you (and if you want the children, dog, partner) and the outdoors. Walk, run, cycle, skip, sit on a mat, work in the garden. Whichever. And see how you feel during and after.

Changing things around in your life is simple. Just do things you love and are good for you. One step at a time.

I can’t wait to hear from you to see how this changes things for you!!

 

Patrick Mercie

Mind Coach

Moving people, organisations, companies from F.L.A.W.S. © to FLOW!!

+353 83-3008963

patrickmercie66@hotmail.com